Anal Sex for Beginners

For many people, anal sex is the ultimate taboo. Many people are attracted to it precisely because it's so taboo and mysterious. Others haven't tried it yet and are curious.

What Is Anal Sex?
Anal sex is the act of placing a finger, an erect penis, or object into the anus of another person to give and receive sexual pleasure. Some people also enjoy oral stimulation of the anus, known as analingus or rimming.

Does Anal Sex Hurt?
Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. With enough lubricant and enough patience, it's entirely possible to enjoy anal sex as a safe and fulfilling part of your sex life. If you follow these 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex, you can ensure that your first anal sex experience is pleasurable rather than painful.

Why Try Anal Sex?
For men and women, anal sex is a different, tighter sensation, it’s a little bit naughty, and it provides some variety to normal sex. The anus and the rectum are sensitive areas. There are a wealth of muscles and nerve endings around the anus, and the right kind of touch can feel fantastic. A woman's G-spot can also be stimulated indirectly through anal play as well, and anal orgasms are possible. Anal Sex from Female Perspective describes the erotic sensations a woman feels during anal penetration.

Anal Sex for Men
All men have a prostate gland that can be reached through the rectum. Many men have orgasms just from pressure on the prostate. Prostate Massage for the Ultimate Male Orgasm explains how to massage a man's prostate for his sexual pleasure. Some couples are even exploring male penetration by the female partner with a strap-on dildo, a sexual practice known as Bend Over Boyfriend or pegging.

As more and more of us explore various pleasure zones throughout ours and our lovers' bodies, the anus has received the attention it so richly deserves. In spite of (or is it because of) the pervasive taboo, anal eroticism can become an important part of your sex life, whether as main course or appetizer.

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5 Advanced Anal Sex Techniques

According to a federal study released in 2005, 40 percent of men and 35 percent of women surveyed in 2002 said they have had anal sex with an opposite-sex partner. Given that five of my top ten posts all-time are about anal sex, I'm sure the numbers haveonly increased since then. That means that a lot of couples have moved beyond anal sex for beginners and are looking for way to make anal sex even hotter. Here are five advanced anal sex techniques to try.

1) Try different positions: on your back with your legs on his shoulders; both of you on your sides like spoons; you bent over the edge of the bed, him kneeling on the floor behind you, etc. Positions that require a lot of leg tension on your part are not as simple to do at first (standing, bent over, hands and knees, propped against a wall, squatting or kneeling over his penis, etc.), although they may give you more control of depth and thrusting (assuming you want control). One position I've grown to like is lying on my stomach with my hips raised a little on a pillow. I’m pinned down, so I just relax and let him do me.

2) Now that you know you can accept his penis, try alternately relaxing your anus when he thrusts into you, and then tightening slightly as he withdraws. This feels wonderful to both of you!

3) As a variation on (2) above, he can hold you to keep you from moving your body, slide deep into you, and, while not thrusting himself, have you squeeze and release with just your anal muscles until he ejaculates. Quite difficult, but worth it.

4) Have him deep inside your vagina before you or he inserts a butt plug. This suddenly makes your vagina seem much tighter, and then, of course, you can both enjoy the snug fit.

5) Don't always use the bedroom. With practice and repetition, you may find you don't need to go through as much preparation for anal sex. Some women, with a fair amount of experience, find they only need to apply some lubrication to their partner's penis and they are ready. Keep small packets of lubricant on you at all times since you never know when your partner may want to "bend you over."

As with all sex, the more you practice, the more enjoyable anal sex will be, since you get used to it and you know how to best enjoy it, what angles you need to use, and what tricks and techniques will make it most pleasurable. For those couples who've gotten past their initial concerns about trying anal sex and discovered how enjoyable it can be, advanced anal sex techniques can open up a whole new world of anal pleasure. Even though you are no longer anal virgins, you can still discover new erotic sensations.

If you're like many people, you've had a satisfying sex life, but deep down you know there's something missing, something you still yearn for. You're looking for new heights of sexual satisfaction. Don't let another night pass without experiencing deep sexual bliss. Make today the day you take your lovemaking to unimagined levels of fulfillment. To learn Tantra sex tips that work, click here.

How to Have Anal Sex with a Big Penis

Can a penis be too big for anal sex? Probably not, though size does matter. However, a big penis doesn't have to be a deal breaker. With proper preparation, enough lubrication, the right position, and relaxation techniques, having anal sex with a big penis can be comfortable and pleasurable.

1) Preparation. One way to prepare yourself for anal sex with a big penis is butt plugs. Get one butt plug as large as the diameter of your partner's penis and one or two smaller ones. Use the smaller ones as "trainers," if necessary, and work up to being able to insert the largest one. You can wear a butt plug during the day to prepare for anal sex that evening, or wait to insert it prior to foreplay. If you wear it while having vaginal sex, he will love how tight it makes your vagina feel. Once you're able to insert and wear the large butt plug, penetration with his penis should then be fairly comfortable.

2) Lubrication. Since the anal region is not self-lubricating, lubricants are essential to reduce friction and discomfort during anal sex, and even more so with a big penis. A good choice for anal sex is Astroglide, a super-smooth, long-lasting lubricant that can be found at many neighborhood pharmacies. Use as much lube as possible. You really can’t use too much.

3) Position. Though doggy-style may be the most popular anal sex position, it’s not necessarily the best one if your partner has a big penis. Missionary position (man on top, woman on bottom) allows the woman to fully relax her anus, making penetration much easier. Another good position is side anal or "spooning." The woman lies on one side, and the man approaches from the rear. The woman can relax her anus, and the man can easily access the entire anal area.

4) Relaxation. If you have pain when his penis is inserted, have your partner stop, but not pull out. He should just hold his position while you take several slow, deep breaths and relax the anal muscles. Pushing out (as you would for a bowel movement) will help to open those muscles and allow them relax against the penis. The pain should subside though you may still might feel some discomfort from having something pushing into you and being stretched open. Try to stay relaxed as he continues to push his penis in further. Any time it hurts, have your partner stop while you take slow, deep breaths, push out, and relax until the pain subsides.

If the man exercises patience and control, most women will be able to accommodate any size penis using the above techniques. The incredible sensations of fullness for a woman and tightness for the man make anal sex with a big penis worth the extra time and effort.

If you're like many people, you've had a satisfying sex life, but deep down you know there's something missing, something you still yearn for. You're looking for new heights of sexual satisfaction. Don't let another night pass without experiencing deep sexual bliss. Make today the day you take your lovemaking to unimagined levels of fulfillment. To learn Tantra sex tips that work, click here.

How to Make Her Want Anal Sex

Do you want to have anal sex with your wife or girlfriend, but are uncertain about her reaction? Many women are curious about anal sex, but are scared about comfort and safety issues. Some women who are unwilling to try anal sex with their current partner may have had a bad experience with an impatient or ignorant lover in the past. That's why I don't recommend asking a woman for anal sex without some careful preparation. Instead of asking her to try anal sex, it's better to make her want anal sex.

Anal sex can be very pleasurable for women because the rectum shares a wall with the vagina, and the sexual nerves are actually closer on that side, which makes the sensation unique, stronger and quite possibly orgasmic. My post Anal Sex from a Female Perspective describes what anal sex feels like for a woman. I am a firm believer that once a woman experiences the sensual pleasure that anal play can bring, she’ll allow you to explore the possibilities a little further, and, given sufficient time and patience, will eventually allow you to take it to the ultimate step of full anal penetration.

The key to the approach I recommend is to "train" her to associate anal sensations with sexual pleasure. The next time you’re going down on her (twice as many women orgasm from oral sex as from intercourse), move your hands around and cup her butt cheeks, squeeze and massage them, and then let your finger(s) wander into her crack a little bit. Get her to pull her legs back towards her head (so you can have better access to her vagina), and lightly bite/nibble around her butt in places you can reach, and run your tongue as close to her crack as you can comfortably (for you and her).

You must keep your eyes and ears open during this to gauge her response. If she moans a little louder, squirms a little bit more, or provides some other positive feedback, then go on to the next step. If she jerks away or gives you a negative reaction, don’t press the issue. Just try again the next time and hope for a more positive reaction.

If you’ve gotten your positive feedback, and are confident about proceeding, lube up a finger and slide it down into the crack of her butt and over her anus (this assumes she’s pulling her legs back for easy access). Don’t let it linger there. Just run it right over the anus slowly and see how she responds. Again, judge her reaction to decide whether or not you should proceed.

If you get another favorable reaction, try it again and this time, let your finger linger there, and perhaps perform some light massage on the anus, especially as you are performing cunnilingus on her. Her nerve endings will already be lit up down there, and everything in that area is interconnected anyway. As long as she doesn’t think you’re about to invade, you should get a noticeable increase in positive feedback.

Assuming you are successful, put a little lube on your finger and slowly, with circular motions, stroke the outside of her opening. Then gradually insert your finger inside the anus. Do not move it at first. Just allow her to enjoy the sensation of fullness in the anus.

Slowly insert the finger up to the end and make circular motions with the whole wrist, without moving the finger in and out. These motions will be felt in the vagina. While you're doing this, do something else, such kiss her breasts or stimulate her clitoris. Try to make her experience pleasurable. A woman who enjoys anal foreplay will eventually begin to give anal penetration some serious thought.

Getting her highly aroused goes a long way toward reducing inhibitions. If you take advantage of her uninhibited state, you can probably progress to the point where she’ll allow you to penetrate her anus with a finger, then two, and maybe even proceed to the point of using a small sex toy. The key here is to make sure that you don’t rush things. If you take your time, and let her get comfortable with the idea of anal play, you should eventually reach the point where she’ll seriously consider allowing you to try full anal penetration with your penis.

When she does, be sure to follow the 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex unless you want the first time to be the last time. A bad experience can turn her off to anal sex altogether - at least with you. On the other hand, anal sex can be one of the most erotic and satisfying sexual practices a woman can enjoy. It's a different, tighter sensation than vaginal sex, and, if the clitoris and/or vagina are stimulated while you're inside her, it can take her to another sexual realm.

If you're like many people, you've had a satisfying sex life, but deep down you know there's something missing, something you still yearn for. You're looking for new heights of sexual satisfaction. Don't let another night pass without experiencing deep sexual bliss. Make today the day you take your lovemaking to unimagined levels of fulfillment. To learn Tantra sex tips that work, click here.

Bend Over Boyfriend: How to Make HIM Want Anal Sex

More and more men are becoming interested in anal pleasure and comfortable with the idea of letting their female partners take control in bed. Bend Over Boyfriend (BOB) or pegging means that a woman uses a strap-on dildo to penetrate her male partner anally. Anal penetration stimulates the prostate gland, which is sometimes called the male “G-spot.” An orgasm from prostate stimulation can be the most intense a man can have.

Some couples enjoy the taboo of the woman penetrating her male partner. Many women also enjoy the role reversal of BOB and the feeling of being in control of their man’s pleasure. Some women can even have orgasms while penetrating their partner.

If you’re interested in exploring BOB with your partner, bring it up and see how he feels about it. If he's had anal sex with you, and you've enjoyed it, you have an advantage in persuading him that he would enjoy it, too. You can point out that you enjoy anal sex even though you don't have a prostate gland, so he's sure to enjoy it even more than you do. (That may not be altogether true, but it sounds logical.) Also, if you've already done some anal play with him during sex, you're that much closer to taking things one step further.

Even if he rejects the idea out of hand, you can use your feminine wiles to change his mind. The approach I recommend is similar to the one in my post How to Make Her Want Anal Sex except tailored for the male body. You will train” him to associate anal sensations with sexual pleasure because I’m a firm believer that, once a man experiences the sensual pleasure that anal play can bring, he’ll allow you to explore the possibilities a little further. Given sufficient time and patience, he will eventually allow you to take it to the ultimate step of full anal penetration with a strap-on dildo. For some men, though, there may be an additional obstacle to overcome, which I'll talk about later.

The best time to initiate anal play is when he is turned on and desperately wants you to keep on doing whatever you're doing. Now when do you think that might be? That's right - when you're giving him head. The next time you're sucking and licking his penis, let your finger(s) wander into his crack a little bit. Massage his perineum - the area between the scrotum and the anus.

Keep your eyes and ears open during this to gauge his response. If he moans a little louder, squirms a little bit more, or provides some other positive feedback, then go on to the next step. If he jerks away or gives you a negative reaction, don’t press the issue. Just try again the next time and hope for a more positive reaction.

If you’ve gotten your positive feedback, and are confident about proceeding, lube up a finger and slide it down into the crack of his butt and over his anus. Don’t let it linger there. Just run it right over the anus slowly and see how he responds. Again, judge his reaction to decide whether or not you should proceed.

If you get another favorable reaction, try it again and this time, let your finger linger there, and perhaps perform some light massage on the anus. Assuming you are successful, put a little lube on your finger and slowly, with circular motions, stroke the outside of his opening.

Then gradually insert your finger inside the anus. Do not move it at first. Just allow him to enjoy the sensation of fullness in the anus. Next, slowly insert the finger up to the end and make circular motions with the whole wrist, without moving the finger in and out. Try to make his experience pleasurable. The key here is to make sure that you don’t rush things.

Once your man has allowed you to penetrate him with a finger, the next step is to suggest a prostate massage. If you have to, you can stress the health benefits - especially if he's over 30 - and emphasize how much better it will be for you, rather than a doctor, to massage his prostate. My post Prostate Massage for the Ultimate Male Orgasm tells you how to give a man a much more intense orgasm than he may have ever experienced before.

After experiencing a sensual prostate massage, it won't take much persuading for some men to reach the conclusion that something bigger pressing against their prostate might feel even better than your fingers. However, don't go shopping for your strap-on just yet because for many men there will be one more big obstacle to overcome: the fear that if they enjoy penetration with a penis-shaped object that it means they're gay or that you will think they are.

Of course, the first fear only makes sense if you don't examine it too closely. By that reasoning, a straight man shouldn't enjoy oral sex since gay men do. Because all men have the same sexual parts, they're able to enjoy the same sensations. It's not what you do, but who you do it with that determines whether someone is straight or gay.

The second fear is trickier. BOB puts a man in an extremely vulnerable position, not only physically, but also psychologically. He may be afraid that if he allows you to bend him over, that you won't think of him as a real man anymore. You have to reassure him that what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom.

Once your man agrees to let you take him anally, follow the advice in my post How to Bend Over Your Boyfriend and Make Him Like It to ensure that it's a great experience for both of you. If you read some of the comments about the post, you'll see that he may be in for the sexual experience of his life, and you may be, too. Bend Over Boyfriend is a sexual practice that comes with deep potential for personal growth and really hot sex!

If you're like many people, you've had a satisfying sex life, but deep down you know there's something missing, something you still yearn for. You're looking for new heights of sexual satisfaction. Don't let another night pass without experiencing deep sexual bliss. Make today the day you take your lovemaking to unimagined levels of fulfillment. To learn Tantra sex tips that work, click here.

Anal Sex from a Female Perspective

Anal sex is one of the most erotic and satisfying sexual practices a woman and her partner can enjoy. Anal sex is a different, tighter sensation than vaginal sex. The rectum, once it’s ready, literally swallows the penis up and can’t get enough. If the clitoris and/or vagina are stimulated while your man is inside you, it can take you to another sexual realm. It's pretty intense, no matter what, and the increased tightness back there makes it just that much better.

I still faithfully follow the 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex to ensure that the experience will be pleasurable rather than painful. Oral sex or even intercourse helps me to relax and feel at ease before engaging in anal sex. Something that really helps me to relax the anal sphincters is my partner rubbing my butt cheeks softly, spreading them, and then squeezing them together. That and him teasing my anus very slowly with his fingers and tongue makes sure I'm very ready.

As for positions, though doggie-style may be the most popular anal sex position, missionary position (man on top, woman on bottom) allows me to fully relax my anus, making penetration much easier. I describe my favorite variations in 3 Great Anal Sex Positions.

I like my partner to go very slowly while inserting his penis into me. First of all, it allows the anal sphincters to gradually adjust. Secondly, I love the erotic sensation of gradually being filled by his penis. It feels like I'm swallowing him. I really like to control the pace by being the one to slowly push back on him at the pace I'm ready to take him.

Anal penetration is an entirely different feeling than vaginal penetration. There's a lot more pressure just before actual penetration. First, there's an intense feeling of pressure as the head presses against you, which builds up a feeling of anticipation. Then there's a release of pure pleasure as the head slips through. You really notice the change in diameter as the head moves inside. You feel the length of the shaft sliding in with every nerve ending you can imagine. If you're relaxed enough, it feels amazing when he gets through the second sphincter.

One of the most exquisite sensations for me of anal sex is when he pulls out and then slides back in the first time. The in-stroke is intensely sensual. I love slow at first, but there comes a point where I want to him to speed up and just take me hard and fast. It's then that I feel completely full. The sensation is very different from having him in my vagina. Everything is so very tight, and the pressure is what causes the pleasure. The anal passage is being stimulated while at the same time there is pressure on my G-spot through the wall of the vagina.

I can orgasm rather quickly after penetration, especially since I usually rub my clitoris once he's inside me. it's an amazing feeling to squeeze my partner's penis as my anal muscles contract around him. I usually climax so hard and squeeze him so tightly that he has a hard time moving because the sensation is so intense for him. If he stays inside me after I've had one orgasm, I can usually have another although I prefer to return to a slower pace for a while until we build up again. When he ejaculates, it's much better because I can actually feel him shoot whereas, vaginally, I usually can't.

Anal sex can feel absolutely incredible. It's different in sensation - it's deep inside, it's not the clitoris, and isn't in the vagina, but feels strangely like both in a sort of mixed-up combination in another part of the body. It doesn’t feel like anything else you may have felt before. Women who don’t enjoy anal sex are probably doing it wrong.

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3 Great Anal Sex Positions

Anal sex is a firm favorite with many men and women, and there are lots of sex positions in which you can try it. Two important aspects of a good anal sex position are that it allows the woman to be relaxed and physically comfortable, and that it gives the man access to the area. Because anal sex is a much slower form of penetrative sex, it’s important to find a position that you’re comfortable in and isn’t too taxing on your body. Below are three great anal sex positions.

1) Knees on Chest: The knees on chest position, with the woman lying on her back with her legs up, can be a great first-time sex position. Both partner’s bodies are close to the "ground," which allows for more relaxation and less work. It also allows for plenty of physical touching, which is so important to women during anal sex. Placing a pillow under the woman's lower back can be helpful.

2) Cocoon: If you've already tried anal sex, here's a position to get your man deeper inside than ever before. Lie on the bed with your bottom on the edge and your legs raised. Make sure you have a pillow or two under your pelvis to make it easier for him to penetrate your anus.

With your man standing in front of you, bend your knees and rest your feet on his chest while he begins to enter your anus very slowly. Once he's inside to the depth that's comfortable for you, speed up or slow down the thrusting as you like.

2) Jack Hammer: Even though the name suggests fast, hard thrusting, you can mix it up for varying sensations To perform the Jack Hammer, put some pillows underneath your butt and lower back, and then hoist both of your legs over your man's shoulders as he kneels between your legs.

Your man should take it easy to begin with and insert his penis an inch at a time, checking to make sure you're is comfortable at each stage. He doesn't even have to fully insert his penis in this anal position, as the tip of his penis will be squeezed by your tight anal sphincter muscles, which will be enjoyable for you too.

For men and women, anal sex is a different, tighter sensation than vaginal sex. It is also often a "first time for everything" type of activity which can also be nice - doing something you've never done before, ever. If you're considering trying anal sex for the first time, make sure that you follow the 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex. Practice makes perfect, and it’s the ability to maneuver oneself and try different styles that allows anal sex to be pleasurable.

If you're like many people, you've had a satisfying sex life, but deep down you know there's something missing, something you still yearn for. You're looking for new heights of sexual satisfaction. Don't let another night pass without experiencing deep sexual bliss. Make today the day you take your lovemaking to unimagined levels of fulfillment. To learn Tantra sex tips that work, click here.